Love that.
Reminds me of a section in Marci Shimoff’s great book Happy for No Reason (see Notes) where she provides us with an inspiring look at some of the recent and powerful findings in Positive Psychology.
In the book Marci talks about the fact that we all have what psychologists call a “happiness set point” that’s about 40% genetic, 10% circumstantial (like our wealth and marital status) and 50% within our control. Researchers have discovered that even if someone experiences great gains or losses they tend to wind up at the same happiness set point.
For example, after about a year, a lottery winner will lose her buzz and go back to the same level of happiness AND, after the same period, a person who loses his legs will come out of the despair and back to the same basic level of happiness.
Remarkable, eh?
The cool thing is we can raise our happiness levels through practices like what Pema recommends here: to “incline our minds to joy.” In essence, to practice LOOKING for things to celebrate. The warm water in our shower, the smooth ride on a freeway, the abundant food in a grocery store or at a farmer’s market.
Our life is FULL of blessings and we want to develop the practice of seeing the beauty. As we do this, we literally train our subconscious minds to find more amazing stuff for us.
It’s kinda like when we go out and buy a car. Ever wonder why suddenly you see your make/model/color car EVERYWHERE you look?
Obviously, those cars were *always* there, but you didn’t see them until you’d thought about it enough times that your subconscious mind (technically, your reticular activating system (or RAS) which is responsible for filtering the trillions of stimuli that constantly bombard us) thought it must be important to you and started showing you all of them on the road!
The SAME THING happens when we incline our mind to joy. OR, for that matter, when we incline our mind to pain.
If we’re ALWAYS complaining the world’s evil and people are cruel, guess what? Our subconscious mind will filter our experiences and serve up all kinds of examples of evil and cruelty.
If, on the other hand, we incline our mind to joy and celebrate all the little things that are going well in our lives, our RAS will feed up more and more examples of things to celebrate.
Powerful stuff.
So… What can YOU celebrate today?!?
And, how about a look at the opposite of inclining our mind to joy?