Couple things here.
First, let’s differentiate INTENSITY (good) and TENSION (not so good).
We want to apply a high level of mental power to what we do/who we are—without fear; just pure, enthusiastic, creative mojo. That’s a very good thing.
Take that same intensity and throw in fear + attachment to results + self-consciousness + overthinking and you get tension, overtrying, strain, etc. That’s not so good. :)
Tension tends to come in when we get too attached to outcomes. If you find yourself overtrying and getting tense about anything in your life, step back, take a nice deep breath (seriously, do that! deep breaths are magic sauce), shake out your body, smile and think about all the fun you get to have doing what you do and move the outcomes out of your mind and into the future as natural by-products of you showing up fully moment to moment to moment.
That’s a quick look at intensity vs. tension.
Part two.
Our success is going to depend upon our SUSTAINED intensity in a given direction.
If we start in one direction and then head in a different direction (and then another and then…), we’re not going to get too far. (But we will stress ourselves out considerably.)
Imagine you decide to drive from Los Angeles to, say, San Francisco.
You get in your car. You’re excited. You fill up with gas and head north on your way. Awesome. Then, about an hour in you start to question whether you really want to go to San Francisco. I mean, it gets foggy this time of the year and it’s a long drive and… and… (overthinking) and…
So, you decide you should actually go to San Diego. Yah. San Diego would be great!
You pull off on the next exit and turn around—heading south. San Diego here we come! You drive for a couple hours this time, passing LA and then you start thinking again. “Hmmmm… Do I REALLY want to go to San Diego? Blah blah blah blah-p a r a l y z i n g-blah.”
That sounds absurd when we talk about it in the context of a road trip but haven’t we all done that with various habits we want to build or projects we want to rock?
Intensity. Sustained in ONE direction. Equals goodness.
What direction you headed? Ready to sustain that with a high level of intensity?
(AWESOME!)