How to Be a Stoic

Using Ancient Philosophy to Live a Modern Life
by Massimo Pigliucci | Basic Books © 2018 · 288 pages

Massimo Pigliucci is a Professor of Philosophy at City College of New York. He has three PhDs—one in genetics, another in evolutionary biology and a third in philosophy. And, most importantly for our purposes, he’s a practicing Stoic philosopher. In this book, Professor Pigliucci teaches us how to be a Stoic via an imaginary dialogue with Epictetus, one of the leading Stoic teachers of the ancient world. It’s a wonderfully written, super-smart look at how we can use “ancient philosophy to live a modern life.” Big Ideas we explore include an introduction to our guide Epictetus, Rule #1 of Stoicism (some things are in our power, others are not), the cardinal virtues (of Stoicism + Science + Optimize), the power of role models (and the Stoic Paradox), and the ultimate how to be a Stoic practice question: How can I use virtue here and now?


Of course, Stoicism is a philosophy, not a type of therapy. The difference is crucial: a therapy is intended to be a short-term approach to helping people overcome specific problems of a psychological nature; it doesn’t necessarily provide a general picture, or philosophy, of life. A philosophy of life is something we all need, however, and something we all develop, consciously or not.
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“So let us explore Stoicism together in a running conversation with Epictetus via his discourses. We will talk about subjects as varied as God, cosmopolitanism in an increasingly fractured world, taking care of our families, the relevance of our own character, managing anger and disability, the morality (or not) of suicide, and a lot more. Other Stoic authors, both ancient and modern, will occasionally supplement what we learn from Epictetus, and sometimes I will gently push back against some of our guide’s notions, bringing up advances in philosophy and science over the intervening centuries and debating what a modern take on Stoicism might look like. The goal is to learn something about how to answer that most fundamental question: How ought we to live our lives?”

~ Massimo Pigliucci from How to Be a Stoic

Massimo Pigliucci is a Professor of Philosophy at City College of New York. He has three PhDs—one in genetics, another in evolutionary biology and a third in philosophy.

And, most importantly for our purposes, he’s a practicing Stoic philosopher. (Kinda like another Professor of Philosophy/practitioner of Stoic philosophy we recently covered: William B. Irvine. Check out our Notes on his great books: A Guide to the Good Life and The Stoic Challenge.)

In this book, Professor Pigliucci teaches us how to be a Stoic via an imaginary dialogue with Epictetus, one of the leading Stoic teachers of the ancient world.

It’s a wonderfully written, super-smart look at how we can use “ancient philosophy to live a modern life.”

Tim Ferriss says it’s One of the best explorations of Stoic philosophy that I’ve read. <- I agree. Get a copy of the book here.

It’s packed with Big Ideas and I’m excited to explore some of my favorite Ideas we can apply to our lives TODAY so let’s jump straight in!

Meet our Guide: Epictetus

“What a remarkable figure [Epictetus was], no? A crippled slave who acquires an education, becomes a free man, establishes his own school, is exiled by one emperor but is on friendly terms with another, and selflessly helps a young child near the end of a simple life that will continue until the very ripe age, especially for the time, of eighty. Oh, and most importantly, who utters some of the most powerful words ever spoken by any teacher in the entire Western world and beyond. Epictetus is the perfect guide for our journey, not simply because he was the first Stoic I happened to encounter, but because of his sensitivity and intelligence, his dark sense of humor, and his disagreement with me on a number of important points, which will allow me to demonstrate the remarkable flexibility of Stoic philosophy and its capacity to adapt to times and places as different from each other as second-century Rome and twenty-first-century New York.”

Epictetus.

He was a fascinating guy and one of the most influential teachers of the Western world.

As we discussed in Donald Robertson’s The Philosophy of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Stoic philosophy in general (and Epictetus in particular) significantly influenced Albert Ellis (creator of rational emotive behavior therapy) and Aaron Beck, the creator of one of the most effective modern-day forms of therapy: cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). In fact, Beck said: The philosophical origins of cognitive therapy can be traced back to the Stoic philosophers.

Massimo tells us that Viktor Frankl also acknowledged Stoicism as an important influence in developing his logotherapy: Frankl was a neurologist and psychiatrist who survived the Holocaust and wrote the best-selling book Man’s Search for Meaning. His moving and inspiring story of resilience can be read as a contemporary example of Stoicism in practice.

But, get this. Epictetus isn’t even his real name. The word epictetus simply meant “acquired” which reflects the fact that he was born a slave.

He was born in 55 CE in Hierapolis (present-day Pamukkale in Turkey). His master was a guy named Epaphroditos—a wealthy freedman (meaning he was a former slave himself) who worked as a secretary to the emperor Nero in Rome. He treated Epictetus well andallowed him to study Stoic philosophy under one of the most renowned teachers in Rome, Musonius Rufus.

btw: As it turns out, we just chatted about Musonius Rufus in our last Note on his Lectures and Sayings. Although less well known today, he was another great Roman Stoic who said things like this: Just as there is no use in medical study unless it leads to the health of the human body, so there is no use to a philosophical doctrine unless it leads to the virtue of the human soul.

Recall the Roman Stoic lineage: Musonius Rufus taught Epictetus. Epictetus taught the guys who taught Marcus Aurelius.

So… Massimo chooses Epictetus to be our guide on how to become a Stoic. They engage in a great chat about various aspects of living a good life. Let’s explore some of those Ideas now.

This led [the Stoics] to coin and use a word that is still crucial to our modern vocabulary: cosmopolitanism, which literally means ‘being a citizen of the world.’ Or as Socrates—arguably the most important influence on all Hellenistic schools of philosophy—put it: ‘Never reply to one who asks [your] country, ‘I am an Athenian,’ or ‘I am a Corinthian,’ but ‘I am a citizen of the universe.’
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Some things are in our power, others are not

“One of Epictetus’s crucial points is that we have a strange tendency to worry about, and concentrate our energies on, precisely those things we cannot control. On the contrary, the Stoics say, we should pay attention to the parameters in life’s equation we do control or influence: making sure that we have embarked on a voyage we really want to make, and for good reasons; spending some time researching the best crew (airline) for our ship (plane); and making related preparations. One of the first lessons from Stoicism, then, is to focus our attention and efforts where we have the most power and then let the universe run as it will. This will save us both a lot of energy and a lot of worry.”

After a quick historical and philosophical overview of Stoicism, it’s time to learn our practical philosophy. The book is organized in three parts, according to the three facets of Stoicism Epictetus taught. (Ryan Holiday organized The Daily Stoic in a similar fashion.)

Part I is on “The Discipline of Desire: What is Proper to Want or Not to Want.”
Part II is on “The Discipline of Action: How to Behave in the World.”
Part III is on “The Discipline of Assent: How to React to Situations.”

That section above is from the first chapter in Part I called “Some Things Are in Our Power, Others Are Not.” As we’ve discussed in nearly all the Notes on Stoicism, that’s RULE #1.

One more time: Some things are in our control, others are not. The wisest among us focus on those things we can control (and/or influence) and leave the rest.

Massimo talks about the Serenity Prayer. It captures the essence of Stoic Rule #1:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

He also quotes Epictetus who tells us:We act very much as if we were on a voyage. What can I do? I can choose the helmsman, the sailors, the day, the moment. Then a storm arises. What do I care? I have fulfilled my task: another has now to act, the helmsman. If the weather is bad for sailing, we sit distracted and keep looking continually and ask, ‘What wind is blowing?’ ‘The north wind.’ What have we to do with that? ‘When will the west wind blow?’ When it so chooses, good sir.

Massimo tells us that another way to look at is via the analogy of the archer. He says: That is why Cicero concluded that ‘the actual hitting of the mark [is] to be chosen but not to be desired,’ a superficially cryptic statement whose meaning should by now be fairly clear: the Stoic archer has deliberately chosen to attempt to hit the mark, and he has done the best he can do within his power to accomplish the goal. But he is also ready to accept a possible negative outcome with equanimity, because the outcome was never entirely under his control. Other variables entered into it—just as happens in pretty much anything we decide to do.

One more time: Some things are in our control, others are not. How can you focus on those things within your control a little more Today?

Of one thing, beware, O man: see what is the price at which you sell your will. If you do nothing else, do not sell your will cheap.
Epictetus

Cardinal virtues: Stoicism + Science + Optimize

“The Stoics adopted Socrates’s classification of four aspects of virtue, which they thought of as four tightly interlinked character traits: (practical) wisdom, courage, temperance, and justice. Practical wisdom allows us to make decisions that improve our eudaimonia, the (ethically) good life. Courage can be physical, but more broadly refers to the moral aspect—for instance, the ability to act well under challenging circumstances, as Priscus and Malala did. Temperance makes it possible for us to control our desires and actions so that we don’t yield to excesses. Justice, for Socrates and the Stoics, refers not to an abstract theory of how society should be run, but rather to the practice of treating other human beings with dignity and fairness.

One crucial feature of the Stoic (and Socratic) conception of virtue is that the different virtues cannot be practiced independently: one cannot be both intemperate and courageous, in the Stoic-Socratic meaning of the term. Although it makes perfect sense for us to say that, for instance, an individual has shown courage in battle and yet regularly drinks to excess or is ill-tempered, for the Stoics that person would not be virtuous, because virtue is an all-or-none package. I never said Stoic philosophy wasn’t demanding.”

Welcome to Part II: “How to Behave in the World.” The short answer on how to behave? It’s revealed in the title of the first chapter from this section: “It’s All About Character (and Virtue).”

Massimo thoughtfully walks us through the four cardinal Stoic virtues: Wisdom + Courage + Temperance + Justice.

He tells us: The Stoics derived their understanding of virtue from Socrates, who believed that all virtues are actually different aspects of the same underlying feature: wisdom. The reason why wisdom is the ‘chief good,’ according to Socrates, is rather simple: it is the only human ability that is good under every and all circumstance.

He also connects these four cardinal virtues to the modern Positive Psychology movement which was founded on an exploration of shared virtues among all cultures—which I found particularly awesome because the next book on my stack to read is called The Power of Character Strengths and was written by two of the leading scientists behind the VIA Institute on Character.

Massimo says: Other cultures have developed, more or less independently, their own sets of virtues as socially important character traits, each arriving at its own classification of the relations among virtues. Interestingly, though, there is much more convergence than we would expect in these days when cultural relativism is so often portrayed as the norm. A study by Katherine Dahlsgaard, Christopher Peterson, and Martin Seligman looked at how virtue is articulated in Buddhism, Christianity, Confucianism, Hinduism, Judaism, Taoism, and what they call ‘Athenian philosophy’ (mostly Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle). They found a rather surprising amount of congruence among all of these religious-philosophical traditions and identified a set of six ‘core’ virtues:

Courage, Justice, Humanity, Temperance, Wisdom, and Transcendence.

Four of the six are indistinguishable from the Stoic virtues. Stoics also accepted the importance of ‘humanity’ and ‘transcendence,’ although they didn’t think of these as virtues, but rather as attitudes toward others (humanity) and toward the universe at large (transcendence).

To recap and drop it into our Optimize framework.

Our Stoics had their four cardinal virtues: Wisdom + Courage + Temperance + Justice. Modern scientists looked across a range of religious-philosophical doctrines across a range of cultures and found the same four virtues and added two: Humanity + Transcendence.

I think we can all agree that Wisdom + Courage + Temperance (or, as I prefer, Self-Mastery) are essential. Then, as we briefly discussed in our last Note on Musonius Rufus, I think “Justice” is a very weak word to capture the LOVE the Stoics (and all other traditions) encouraged us to feel for their families, communities and world. So, why not just call the fourth virtue “Love”? Then we can throw the scientist’s “Justice” and “Humanity” under that umbrella.

Now we have Wisdom + Self-Mastery + Courage + Love.

To run it through our Optimize model: We start by having Wisdom. We know the game we’re playing (eudaimonia!) AND, very importantly, how to play it well (operationalize virtue!).

Then we cultivate our Self-Mastery (with an emphasis on the fundamentals so we can Optimize our Energy). Why? So we can more consistently live with both Courage (in all aspects of our lives but with an emphasis on Work) and so we can more consistently live with Love.

As we do the hard work of operationalizing virtue, we make progress in closing the gap between who we are capable of being and who we are actually being—more and more consistently living with eudaimonia and expressing the Optimus-best version of ourselves.

That leads us to Transcendence. From my vantage point, the eudaimonically-best version of ourselves naturally (almost effervescently) transcends self-interest and lives a life committed to more than just themselves.

A Greek word for that? Hērōs. We become modern, everyday “protectors” of our families and communities and world. We have strength for two. We give the world all we’ve got.

If you learn that someone is speaking ill of you, don’t try to defend yourself against the rumors; respond instead with, ‘Yes, and he doesn’t know the half of it, because he could have said more.
Epictetus

Role Models and The Stoic Paradox

“Eventually, [James] Stockdale was released and came back to the United States, in horrible physical condition. He began to recover, however, and in 1976 he was awarded the Medal of Honor, the highest military recognition, given for acts of valor above and beyond the call of duty.

When he was asked in an interview who didn’t make it out of the Hanoi Hilton, Stockdale replied:

Oh, that’s easy, the optimists. Oh, they were the ones who said, ‘We’re going to be out by Christmas.’ And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they’d say, ‘We’re going to be out by Easter.’ And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart. . . . This is a very important lesson. You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.

The interviewer referred to this as the Stockdale Paradox, but he might as well have attributed it to the original source: Epictetus.”

That’s from another chapter in Part II called “The Role of Role Models.”

One of the Stoic role models Massimo points to is James Stockdale. As we discuss in our Notes on Courage Under Fire and Thoughts of a Philosophical Fighter Pilot, Stockdale was the commanding officer in a prisoner-of-war camp during the Vietnam War. He was also a student of Epictetus and a practitioner of Stoic philosophy.

So… When Jim Collins interviewed Stockdale and captured that gem above, he could have more accurately called it the “Stoic Paradox” rather than the “Stockdale Paradox. “

But that’s not quite the main point of this chapter. Massimo tells us that “Role models such as James Stockdale, Helvidus Priscus, and Malala Yousafzai highlight the point that Stoicism is a practical philosophy, not abstract theorizing. While Stoics of course put forth ethical principles for how to conduct ourselves and live the eudaimonic life, their emphasis was on how real people behave, not just how they talk. Observing and imitating role models, then, is one powerful way to work on our own virtue.

He continues by telling us that these days we tend to pick the WRONG role models: We glorify actors, singers, athletes, and generic ‘celebrities,’ only to be disappointed when—predictably—it turns out that their excellence at reciting, singing, playing basketball, or racking up Facebook likes and Twitter followers has pretty much nothing to do with their moral fiber.

Who are YOUR heroes? How can you be a little more like them TODAY?

P.S. Last week I interviewed William Damon—one of the world’s leading scholars on the psychology of moral development. He is also a BIG fan of using moral exemplars as inspiration and guides in our own journeys. Check out our Notes on The Power of Ideals for more.

P.P.S. As I read this section (and chatted with William Damon), I became even more committed to the central goal of our Optimize Coach program: Helping our aspiring Coaches become radiant exemplars in their communities.

At the end of the day, I think THAT is what the world needs most. As Campbell puts it in Pathways to Bliss: When we have the courage to live our most heroic lives and fulfill our latent potentialities: You become a sign, you become a signal, transparent to transcendence.

P.P.P.S. Back to Massimo: The other thing to remember about role models—and the Stoics understood this very well—is that they are not perfect human beings, for the simple reason that there is no such thing. Moreover, making perfection an integral part of our concept of role model means that we are setting a standard that is impossibly high.

Stoicism taught me that regret is about things we can no longer change and the right attitude is to learn from our experiences, not dwell on decisions that we are not in a position to alter.
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How can I use Virtue here and now?

How can I use virtue here and now? ‘For every challenge, remember the resources you have within you to cope with it. Provoked by the sight of a handsome man or a beautiful woman, you will discover within you the contrary power of self-restraint. Faced with pain, you will discover the power of endurance. If you are insulted, you will discover patience. In time, you will grow to be confident that there is not a single impression that you will not have the moral means to tolerate.’

I think of this passage as one of the most empowering Stoic writings. Epictetus, the former slave, lame, because of a once-broken leg, tells us to use every occasion, every challenge, as a way to exercise virtue, to become a better human being by constant application. Notice how he counters each temptation or difficulty with a virtue that can be practiced, deploying the Stoic concept that every challenge in life is a perfectly good chance to work on self-improvement.”

That’s from the final chapter of the book in which we learn 12 “Practical Spiritual Exercises.”

Massimo kicks off this chapter with a quick recap of the three disciplines that “have been the logical backbone” for the book. As he says: Distilled to their bare minimum… the Stoic principles are as follows:

1. Virtue is the highest good, and everything else is indifferent. The Stoics got the first part from Socrates, who argued that virtue is the chief good because it is the only thing that is valuable under all circumstances and that helps us make proper use of things like health, wealth, and education. Everything else is indifferent in the specifically Stoic sense that nothing can be traded against virtue. …

2. Follow nature. Since human beings are naturally social animals capable of reason, it follows that we should strive to apply reason to achieve a better society. …

3. Dichotomy of control. Some things are under our control, and others are not (though we may be able to influence them).”

With that context, Massimo offers us 12 “practical spiritual exercises” as he reminds us that “True philosophy is a matter of a little theory and a lot of practice.

Practice #1 is to put Rule #1 in place: “Examine your impressions.” #12 is to: “Reflect on your day.” Others include “Choose your company well” and “Pause and take a deep breath.” My favorite is #4: Asking ourselves “How can I use virtue here and now?”

Here’s to following the wisdom of our beloved Epictetus as we “use every occasion, every challenge, as a way to exercise virtue, to become better human beings by constant application. TODAY.

True philosophy is a matter of a little theory and a lot of practice.
Massimo Pigliucci

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Massimo Pigliucci

Prof. of Philosophy at City College, evolutionary biologist, student of Stoicism. Author of A Handbook for New Stoics.